When it comes to smart strategies for social contexts, you might want to lend your ear to Adam Galinksy.
He teaches at Columbia Business School as a professor, but his theories can be easily applied to your personal life as well. Different to what you might expect from a business school teacher, Galinsky won’t take go all Apha-male on you. He will actually show you ways to deal with a world that, in a lot of cases, is.
In his 2016 TEDx talk he gives out some real handy pointers for when you do not know how to speak up for yourself in situations where you might be hesitant because of the perceived area there is for you to share what you think. What is interesting, is that he uses something called optionality to help someone in power assess you to be a good party; give people options to pick from, and they will like you for making their lives easier. Another teacher by the name of Nicholas Nassim Taleb uses this same tactic to help you become less fragile in your life.
The second video shows you a webinar about his book Friend & Foe: When to Cooperate, When to Compete, and How to Succeed at Both
talking about how to pick when you can use acting as either a friend or a foe, which might come in really handy when you’re used to being either a very dominant or submissive character – on which you might want to check out this crazy lecture .
Want to get creative? Date someone from another culture!
Another great insight from Adam comes from NPR’s Hidden Brain podcast , titled The Edge Effect, on how dating people from other cultures makes you way more creative.
About Adam Galinsky
Adam Daniel Galinsky (born 1969) is an American social psychologist known for his research on leadership, power, negotiations, decision-making, diversity, and ethics. He is Vikram S. Pandit Professor of Business and Chair of Management Division at Columbia Business School. With Maurice Schweitzer, he is co-author of Friend and Foe: When to Cooperate, When to Compete, and How to Succeed at Both (2015).